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Be a superflirt!

2010-01-06 16:07:13

Here is some advise from those who mastered the flirting game:

1.Think about your responses. Tone of voice and sarcasm for example are often misread and can lead to awkward misunderstandings.

2. You don't ALWAYS have to meet your flirting partner, it is possible to have a 'flirtationship' that doesn't actually lead anywhere.

3. Keep it simple, short and amusing with the odd compliment thrown in!

4. Don't be too over familiar ie putting kisses after your message can come across as rather insincere. A kiss after a text or email should be saved for someone you know.

5. Never be overtly sexual via text/email if you haven't met yet. It can often culminate into a big anti-climax when you do finally meet and there is nothing else to explore.

6. Play hard to text - don't respond immediately. The old mantra 'treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen' applies to cyber 'flirting too but don't leave it too long - more than a day is just rude.

7. Timing - this is crucial if you want to make the right impression. Try not to send drunken texts that you will regret in the morning!

8. Avoid complex messages and acronyms, it's highly unlikely they'll know what you mean!

9. Always be yourself and be honest. An act is hard to keep up and you don't want someone to fall for the person you are pretending to be!

10. Have fun and don't take things too seriously. Flirting is all about having fun!

Jolanta Rudzka-Gowda (MA in Social Science) is a therapist with a wide range of knowledge about human relationships.
She has explored the fields of psychology, psychotherapy and coaching. She has got a Diploma in Advanced Hypnotherapy and during her work she uses the following techniques for accessing subconscious mind: hypnosis, regression and NLP.
For more information about Jolanta please visit the website www.hypnosisinthecity.co.uk.
The areas she can help with are: subconscious mind and its impact on our life, influencing other people through our behavior, body language, non-verbal (unconscious messages) we send out to others, self worth and confidence in relationships, independence, problems with relationships, personal development.