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Why she backs away?

2010-03-11 18:04:46

“I am confused about mixed signals a woman is sending to me. At the beginning she has been flirty and I felt she liked me. She was also open about her vulnerabilities, told me a lot about herself about her past etc. When I did the same and mentioned some vulnerabilities from my past  she immediately backed away. What is going on?”


The reason for that can be family model she had. Maybe her father was ta ypical macho guy who has never shown much of emotions and she just doesn’t know how to behave in this sort of situation. That’s why she backs away.
You may have some compatibility issues with her. She will not be able to understand much of your cause and act with empathy, there will be clashes!

Disclosing too much of yourself early on can have negativeside effects.There is a time and place for that, but later on , not at the beginning.


Remember – always, always act with full confidence and believe in yourself. Women just love winners!


Don’t start relationship discussing your problems, weaknesses and fears, the time for that will come later!


Act confident even if you're scared to death

Jolanta Rudzka-Gowda (MA in Social Science) is a therapist with a wide range of knowledge about human relationships.
She has explored the fields of psychology, psychotherapy and coaching. She has got a Diploma in Advanced Hypnotherapy and during her work she uses the following techniques for accessing subconscious mind: hypnosis, regression and NLP.
For more information about Jolanta please visit the website www.hypnosisinthecity.co.uk.
The areas she can help with are: subconscious mind and its impact on our life, influencing other people through our behavior, body language, non-verbal (unconscious messages) we send out to others, self worth and confidence in relationships, independence, problems with relationships, personal development.